I've been pulling The Star tarot card a lot this week. At first glance, it wouldn't seem like The Star would have much to tell us about style. After all, in most renditions of the card, the subject is a naked woman. But I find her a very compelling guide, particularly during a pandemic lockdown, scrolling through a million dresses on hundreds of online shops, shopping somewhat out of boredom, but also out of a kind of need for beauty and frivolity.
But when we're shopping online, maybe because we don't feel totally great on public transportation or indoors yet, maybe because we are stuck at home more than usual, the infinite choice available to us makes the experience a bit weird. We can buy too much, with boxes arriving days later as we think, now what the hell is that?? Or the limitless choice can intimidate us -- how can we possibly ever choose when there are dozens of other options just around the corner?
(Or come find us in person in New York City or in our new location in New Hope, Pennsylvania. We can help you dream in person.)
Then, beyond all that, how do we even know what we like? We're told a million times a day what we should like, what we should not wear (because our arms aren't toned, because it's tacky, because it's for someone half or twice our age), what is important to have *now*. (It'll change by the time your order is even shipped.) And this is where the Star can help us out.
I've been reading Tarot for a long time, and I can tell you that often what vexes people is not knowing what they like. Told for so long what they should like -- by critics, by friends, by family, by television, etc -- they haven't had the time to really think and decide for themselves. The Star says, once you figure out who you actually are and what you desire, the rest, even if uncertain, becomes less important. Stripping yourself bare from other people's expectations and desires, simply to get a good look at who you genuinely are under all of those pressures, will help you figure out where you want to go. Once you've got all that down, figuring out what's right for you along the way just kind of takes care of itself. Clothes should be a fun part of that process, not another source of anxiety and disappointment.